living in chaos

The one thing about people with Bipolar Disorder is that they are misunderstood sometimes even by themselves. Donny sometimes finds himself with this uncontrollable urge to irritate. He tends to target his 14 year old brother Drew, but sometimes its whoever is closest that will react to his actions or words. He'll push and push until he gets the reaction that he is looking for, but then when he gets it, he doesn't understand why his target is upset with him. For a while, we were starting every morning with him saying, "Mom, I'm sorry I was a jerk last night." I would accept his apology and try to talk to him about what happened. I would ask him why he did what he did and he would have no answers. Its to the point now that as he is apologizing, I point out that when each morning starts with the same apology, it loses meaning and he needs to try harder to control his actions. It is a work in progress.